Negative Capability is egolessness.
You always get hurt when you think you deserve it.
But when you look at everything as something you need to earn, you tell your ego that it doesn’t control you. Because “the work instills the worth”.
The only person you need to prove something is yourself.
That’s when you’re free.
Free from worrying about what others think of you, free from fearing getting hurt, free from needing. And that’s when you can move on to wanting.
Negative Capability is understanding that freeing yourself from your ego, starts and ends with you. In a way, you have to be egotistic first, so you can become egoless after.